I hate my job anyway. "I hate this job"

anonymously

:((((((Depressed:(((((I HATE MY JOB! Tell me, what should I do with myself? Life is falling apart... :((((((I know that this question will cause laughter and bewilderment for many, I will be considered a snickering parasite, but still.... I’m 30, I live in a provincial town where there is complete poverty, and finding an office job with a more or less normal salary is considered the highest blessing. And at the very least, I work in an office (in different ones! enterprises) for 6 years now... But I just hate my job to the point of madness, fits of anger, tears and swearing. I don’t like all the specifics - the fact that you have to work 5 days a week, get up at 6 in the morning and half-dead crawl to your hard labor! , despite the fact that not every day you actually have to work, and these days you stupidly sit there, I hate the group of narcissistic sleek gossips, hung with gold and their self-glorifying conversations with the real worthlessness of their lives and personalities (as, indeed, the lives of all individuals in in my little town, including mine). My work is also boring and uninteresting to me, and I have to explain and explain something (the same thing every day) like a parrot in a boring voice to mostly rural, semi-literate clients who don’t understand anything, who are always yelling and are dissatisfied with everything. - also not a fun activity. Stupid bosses who use all their methods to think how to rob their employees and pay them as little as possible, forcing them to work as much as possible, and also attract them to perform duties that are not theirs. In addition, it is almost physically disgusting for me to walk around in ugly business clothes, which overwhelmingly make me look older and scarier and at the same time look like a retired grandmother. The salary allows me to barely make ends meet (buy only food and a minimum of the most necessary clothes) BUT these troubles are just bullshit compared to what I lose due to the work of the people closest to me. The relationship with my parents is hopelessly destroyed due to the fact that when I come to them from work, I simply curse at everyone and everything, like the last redneck, and before, in childhood and adolescence, I was a polite, downtrodden girl. They are shocked what happened to me over these 6 years. It’s good that at least I live separately - they put me in one of their apartments. And so it was - every day there was a scandal. My love, with whom we have been for 2 years, (I am a person of non-traditional orientation, and in the provinces it is difficult to find a partner) also began to quarrel with me about my eternal whining, swearing, depression and promises to commit suicide every time something happens at work. it happens, but something always happens there... :((((I’m afraid of losing her too. Although I will not commit suicide, I feel that everything is against me. I’ll say right away that when I went to college, I went anywhere just to get in, knowing that in the provinces there was still nothing good or interesting in terms of work. I thought, I’ll endure it and fall in love with it, I’ll get used to any job gradually, I learned somehow, without trying at all, knowing that nothing worthwhile or financial awaits me anyway, and I still won’t go to Moscow as a guest worker to work physically... so I got it for myself personal hell. Already from college, I degenerated, having lost faith in any success, and I am floating through life like in an ice hole, although I graduated from school with a gold medal. How can I regain good relationships with loved ones and not go crazy in my hard labor? I can’t look for another job - they pay less, and there are few chances given my level of education. It’s impossible NOT to work - no one will support me. Is it really possible to always go to work with Corvalol and valerian, so as not to express irritation at home? You can't always take medicine...

Yes....I sympathize with your experiences...With such a perception of your work - namely, at least 40 hours of your life a week - it’s like a prison sentence. But it’s voluntary, that’s where the main ambush is! Let's try this. Write to me, if without all these “shoulds” and “!musts” - what would you do in your life now with pleasure, with interest, with pleasure? If you can’t take a break from NOT working for a while, and there’s no one to support you -?

anonymously

I hate precisely the atmosphere of the office and the constant team of young, well-groomed whores around, feigned politeness to clients. If I sat and filled out the same documents in a separate room, I wouldn’t feel so disgusted and bad. In my 30s, I should have somehow secluded myself from people. It’s unpleasant to see someone’s youth and success, their blooming appearance, and it’s painful to compare yourself with younger employees. I start to think about my relationship with a girl, she is 4 years younger than me and I immediately feel like, and even in poor business clothes, just a disgusting old woman. I constantly think that my girlfriend will find herself younger and more successful than me. Although there are no real reasons for jealousy yet. And she always says that she loves, we live together and I sometimes sit next to her and am jealous..... Kvk is terrible at becoming an old woman - and work reminds of this like an open wound: ((((((

anonymously

Hatred of work came with age. I used to treat her normally. When I was the youngest in the team :))) Only when I saw the young beautiful employees, I completely fell apart.

anonymously

And as for pleasure and interest - this is certainly not related to business. For my money, besides, it is impossible to relax other than stupidly sitting on the Internet or in front of the TV. I live in the provinces, therefore, I am a second-class person - and my pleasures are just as slavish - staring at the computer, drinking beer, smoking :))))) BUT this is normal for my city. Everyone here is gradually turning into intellectually undeveloped trash, it’s a pity, but I’m becoming the same... I never thought that I would get to the point of watching stupid shows for grandmothers and would launch it so much appearance Over the course of a couple of years, my former acquaintances saw me on the street and asked me what happened to me. I have turned into some kind of shrunken, unkempt troll in always some kind of unkempt clothes.... I even go to the hairdresser only when it becomes unbearable to see my reflection in the mirror... is it really possible that gradual degradation awaits everyone living in the provinces? Probably, someday I will get drunk like all the inhabitants here. The fear that, having become unemployed, I will go down completely, is what makes me hold on to my hard labor, among other things.

To work without much desire. Many of them would prefer never to return there. The Village spoke with a tutor, project coordinator, construction coordinator and designer about why their work is evil, and also learned how it is similar to buckwheat porridge and prostitution.

Ekaterina Frolova

private tutor, 22 years old

I teach Russian, English and literature to little kids from sixth and seventh grade, as well as Italian to adults. My classes don't cost very much because I don't have higher education. I dropped out of the HSE philology department in my second year, and a couple of months later I left the MPGU philology department because I was yelled at in the classroom. Soon after that, I remembered that I was a goy, and entered the Maimonides State Academy on a budget. I’m still registered there, but I haven’t been going for a long time.

I never learned Italian, I just went to Italy every summer as a child and went to first grade there. To teach Italian, I read a couple of manuals, but I never studied English or literature additionally. Usually before class I read an article in the textbook and then retell it.

At the same time, I am a very good actress and always put on the most interested face. As a rule, my parents look at me as their salvation, and this makes me ashamed. I am ashamed that I work ineffectively, and I am always afraid that I will be burned, so I am very nervous in every lesson. In an hour of work, I emotionally torture myself as if I had worked a 12-hour shift. After work I don't feel like talking to anyone. I could take a responsible approach to classes, but I don’t want to waste my time on it, I don’t have a dream of becoming the best tutor. I have been teaching for almost five years, but my teaching skill has hardly grown: I still feel insecure with students.

In an hour of work, I emotionally torture myself as if I had worked a 12-hour shift. After work I don't feel like talking to anyone. I could take a responsible approach to classes, but I don’t want to waste my time on it, I don’t have a dream of becoming the best tutor

What I hate more than anything is when I show up for a lesson and am asked to do something I'm not ready for. The road also annoys me. I hate driving. Sometimes I’m lucky and a student lives next to my house, and sometimes I go to Yugo-Zapadnaya, to Mitino or, damn it, to Altufyevo. Many people drive to work every day, and it seems normal to them, but not normal for me.

I also hate the first lesson with a student, in which the parents look at me with an appraising look. I usually come in some kind of holey sweatshirt, but not because I’m homeless, but because I just wear such things. But then my parents listen to me talk and take me for normal. In principle, I hate communicating with my parents - they are like controllers on the bus.

I also get annoyed by children who make stupid jokes. And at such moments I have to put on a friendly face. During class, one of my students constantly spins a Rubik's cube, which rustles and creaks. But this is not surprising, because my classes are boring and suck.

I like to do nothing. But I need money to hang out, drink beer, buy myself drawing pencils and cheap clothes at H&M. I chose this particular job because I don’t want to work 40 hours a week, and a tutor earns as much per hour as a simple consultant gets for a 12-hour shift, that is, a mower.

You can easily earn 30 thousand by working seven to eight hours a week, but I don't do it because I'm lazy and because I get terribly stressed when interacting with students. The most difficult thing is to be strict with children. I adhere to a teaching system where the student and teacher are equal and on the same wavelength. We both communicate using either “you” or “you”. But this approach is only good for children who are really interested in knowledge. I always don’t give a damn about students and their grades, I work exclusively for the sake of the mower.

During classes, I constantly look at the clock and wait for it to be over. I often give tests because I don't like talking to children. If a student has not done his homework, I am happy because we will do it now. And I never check assignments at home - that’s what I still lacked.

Several years ago I worked with a sixth-grader who had a very angry mother, she constantly scolded him and slapped him on the head. At the same time, when I came, the boy wanted to just sit and do nothing. I told him that I don't care. During our supposed classes, I did his school homework for him, and then sat on the phone. On tests, he sent me photos of assignments, and I helped him, so it seemed like he was making progress. After some time, I refused to study with him; I became afraid that his mother would find out about the deception.

I don't work in the summer because it's not the season. In May I tell myself that I will no longer teach, that this is the last school year that I will do it. The same thing happens after the New Year, when I also merge students and their parents. I don't answer their calls and just stop visiting them. However, in the end I still recruit new students, because it is very easy way to earn money. Almost like prostitution, although it is, of course, more complicated.

Before the New Year, I earn 40–50 thousand rubles a month, and after that many students drop out, and I earn less than twenty a month. I am supported by my husbands or someone else. Now I have three students, and I earn 16 thousand rubles - this is very little and is not worth the stress that I experience while working.

In principle, I respect any work. I respect the work of waiters, salespeople, janitors, cleaners, and so on - after all, I could have been in their place. My ideal job is one in which I don’t need to travel anywhere and don’t need to communicate with anyone. I don’t like to work at all, I only like creative action. I would love to become a carpenter and make stools and tables if I could. Soon I will take a sewing class and sew underwear for women. But first I need to save some money. I want to give up tutoring as soon as possible, I hope this Last year when I'm doing this.

Alexandra Biryukova

23 years old, project coordinator in a large international organization

Every Monday I wake up hating that another week has begun that is killing me. It seems to me that I am a function and in my place you can put any fagot who will do just as well. I have learned to perform the same set of functions and do not produce anything new anymore. Although before I had the feeling that I was doing something cool.

I studied at the Faculty of Journalism, and at the end of the third year I got a job as a project coordinator in a large international organization. Our department is engaged in research in the field information technologies, and I guide our projects through all stages of implementation. I have to make sure that certain speakers come to the conference we are organizing, so that they have hotel rooms and plane tickets. I also make sure that the sites have everything necessary equipment, and after the events I write a detailed report. In addition to conferences, we organize round tables, seminars, master classes, lectures, conduct research and publish books.

I came here because I was interested in this work, especially communication with foreigners and practice in English. Before that, I worked as a journalist, and at some point it began to seem to me that my work was not bringing results. Yes, I write and learn something new, but that’s where my activity ends. But here the situation is different. In addition, I immediately liked the team; intelligent, smart people work with me. That's why I'm ashamed that I hate my job, because it's not about my colleagues at all. There is another girl working in my position at the company, and she is a monster: everything is always thought out with her and there are no mistakes. Apparently she doesn't need to create and isn't tired of the work, so she does it well.

My hatred appeared after a year of work, when I realized that all my activities are insanely cyclical, they always follow a well-trodden rut. Each project means the same documents, the same calls and letters, the same problems. An ordinary day also becomes a cycle - I get up at six in the morning, I’m at work around ten, and from six to eight in the evening I go home.

When I first started to worry about the cyclicality and meaninglessness of my life, I took up Sambo. There I was emotionally discharged, and the day seemed more varied. But a year later I fell down the stairs, injured my leg and was out of training for a month. Then I got lazy and gave up completely.

I would compare my work to buckwheat porridge. It seems good and healthy, you can even eat it a couple of times a week without gagging, but it’s impossible to eat it all the time

IN work time I often put off doing things. I go drink coffee, clean up the office (even though I shouldn’t do that), water the flowers or change the toilet paper in the toilet. If I’m stupid on social networks, my bosses reprimand me. What annoys me the most is when there is no work, but I have to sit in the office.

The management is confused by some things. For example, they know that I don't like working with documentation. When asked whether I like my job in general, I answer yes. But there has never been a serious conversation on this topic.

I’m depressed about my attitude towards work, because I know people who come to the office early, and they are inspired: “New day, new victories, new achievements!” And I say to myself: “***** [damn], it’s a new day again, when will I die? Why am I only 23, why not 70, when I’m already retired?”

I get 50 thousand rubles, and that’s enough for me. I would compare my work to buckwheat porridge. It seems good and healthy, you can even eat it a couple of times a week without gagging, but it’s impossible to eat it all the time. When people ask me what I do, I answer that I am a project coordinator. If they then ask what I do, I answer: “I coordinate projects.” After this, the person understands that work is not the topic on which I want to communicate. Even when I drink tea with my colleagues, we talk about anything but work issues.

Sometimes I think: maybe I don’t hate this particular job, but any job and the entire capitalist system in which it is necessary to endlessly survive? This will sound pompous now, but man, according to the Bible, is created in the image and likeness of God, because he, like God, can create. And now we don’t have time for this creativity.

If I hate this particular place of work, then it is curable, and I just need to find myself in another field. But maybe I’m basically not cut out for work. Then it's bad, it's a clinic.

I think at some point I'll just get up and leave. I don’t know when this will happen, but I should still have enough for six months. And now I’m not leaving because I’m afraid to exchange an awl for soap.

Maria Stalevarova

(first and last name changed at the request of the heroine)

26 years old, coordinator construction projects in a state company

I graduated from a Moscow university with a degree in surveyor-engineer, after which I worked at a construction site for two years in my specialty. After some time, I realized that construction was not my thing, and I went to work in commercial real estate- was involved in putting objects into operation. While the house is being built, I do all sorts of paperwork, and at the end I prepare a package of documents for its delivery. Over time, the company where I worked began to delay wages and a crisis ensued. After some time, I got married and realized that I would soon have to go on maternity leave, but with an unstable salary and no prospects, I didn’t want to do this.

Then I started looking for another job and in September 2017 I found this company, which, as I was assured at the interview, was private. In fact, it turned out that we are a state company and are under the construction department. My job is to supervise objects: monitor deadlines, write a lot of letters and control the construction process.

All document flow takes place in a special computer program, and I have to record every step I take. I accepted a task for work - I must unsubscribe, I talked to someone - I must unsubscribe, I wrote some letter - I must unsubscribe. To send a letter to some authority, I need to get it endorsed by two bosses, then by the proofreaders, then by the deputy general director, then again by the proofreaders, and then by the general director. My record is to approve a letter in two hours, the anti-record is more than a month.

The average letter that I have to approve can be read in five minutes, if it’s a contract - in 15. But all the bosses are supposedly very busy, and they don’t have a few minutes to open the email. Although, I think only half of these people really have a lot of work.

Because of bureaucracy, all work is slowed down. For example, contractors are waiting certain documentation, and if it is not sent to them on time, then the completion date of construction will be delayed. And this happens all the time. The hardest thing is when you need to solve a problem within an hour, but I have no influence on the speed of its solution.

We have a rule that “while the boss is sitting, the subordinates should also be sitting.” It is believed that if you leave on time, it means you have little work to do.

When I first started working, the person who interviewed me quit, and my boss became another more experienced and mature man, with whom it was difficult for me to communicate. Employees in the company communicate in groups, but during my work I did not make friends with anyone. And in general, conversations on personal topics are not welcome here - only on work matters. But at my old job, my colleagues and I were a big family. For example, if someone was having a renovation, we would help him choose plaster together.

At my previous job the salary was higher, but during the interview at this company they assured me that once a quarter they would give a bonus of two salaries, there would also be a six-month and annual bonus- from four to seven salaries. Moreover, they told me that bonuses have been issued consistently for many years, they are never delayed or cancelled. However, it turned out that the annual bonus depends on performance. And not a specific department, but the entire company. In 2017, fewer social facilities were built than planned, so no one received a bonus. The semi-annual bonus turned out to be only one, not two, and the quarterly bonus was also only one. And their sizes are much smaller than promised, from a salary to two.

I usually wake up at 06:30 and arrive at the office by 08:40. Despite the fact that the working day begins at nine, almost all employees are already at their desks by 08:30. It is also considered bad form to go home before half past six in the evening, although you can leave at six. We have a rule that “while the boss is sitting, the subordinates should also be sitting.” It is believed that if you leave on time, it means you have little work to do. Asking for time off is not welcome. Here everyone works for the benefit of the company, “we are a government agency, we are on a salary.” When I told my boss that we couldn’t cope and we needed a new employee, he replied that he wasn’t keeping anyone.

An hour is allocated for lunch, but there is so much work that there is simply no time to eat. I'm afraid that with this diet I'll soon get an ulcer. I always come home nervous and continue to worry about work. It's so exhausting that I literally don't want anything. Usually my husband and I watch a movie, I read a book a little and fall asleep quickly, otherwise it will be very difficult to wake up the next morning.

Due to such working conditions, the company has a high staff turnover. In the four months that I've been working here, four of my colleagues have quit. I'm the only one left from the old lineup. In December, I clearly understood that it was time to leave. I can't post a public resume because the company's security service will track it within 24 hours. But I'm looking through vacancies - I hope there will be more by the end of February. Or maybe I'll just go nowhere. The boiling point is already close.

Stanislav Rozhkov

29 years old, designer at a restaurant holding company

My worst day at work happens every day. I constantly get new tasks that I write in a notepad, but it’s impossible to do everything. At the end of the day, I shift some tasks to the next one. And so on endlessly. Our holding opens new restaurants, but there are no more designers. Previously, I could read a book for an hour at work, but now it’s completely impossible to imagine.

The most disgusting thing is when everyone wants to get something from me at once. I'm busy doing something, and people come to me and say that they need to do some bullshit right now, and let everyone else wait. And they also write letters marked “Urgent” and six exclamation marks. And sometimes several people do this at once. Previously, I tried to do everything quickly and please everyone, but after the New Year I behave like a sloth and simply say: “Yes, yes, yes, I understand you, leave me alone, I’m busy.” I just don't have the strength.

There are about ten restaurants in our holding, and each has its own design and decoration. I do the layout of the menus of all the company's restaurants, as well as create layouts for posters and flyers, and sometimes design packaging. At first I liked everything, but after a month I was faced with many tasks not related to design: ordering folders for the menu, buying supplies, children’s coloring books, boxes for candy and a bunch of other work that was not discussed at the interview. This is more like the job of a storekeeper-manager. Of course, the designer’s task may include choosing paper for printing, but I definitely shouldn’t be involved in document management.

I don’t even know what I want to do anymore.

I would like to work in a coffee shop with three tables and make coffee there

When I came to work here, we had four designers on our team, and everything was fine. But soon we were left alone, and then just the two of us. It's half past ten in the evening, and I'm just leaving work. I'm late every day, and I don't get paid extra for delays. But this is different and no way, unless, of course, you want to receive 500 angry messages on WhatsApp. Naturally, it bothers me that I leave work late. When I got a job here, I planned to study German in the evenings, but at ten o’clock, of course, no one needs me with my German.

I don’t even know what I want to do anymore. I would like to work in a coffee shop with three tables and make coffee there. I'm tired and don't quite understand the meaning and role of design in this business. I don’t understand how important it is, for example, how it affects the customers’ attitude towards the menu. I spend a lot of time developing it, but never get feedback.

For the company, my partner and I are not of great value - the focus is on growing good chefs, for whom all conditions are created, because they are the engine that really makes money. And they pay me 80 thousand rubles. If we divide this amount by the number of restaurants in our holding, it turns out that I don’t earn that much.

Today I was walking home from work and thought that I forgot to send the completed work during the day and that I needed to change the frame in the layout of one of the menus. And when I go to work, I don’t have any thoughts in my head at all - I just listen to music. I used to curse my job every morning and think that I would quit tomorrow, but I recently stopped doing that. Maybe I've resigned myself, I don't know. This is probably the influence of winter; if it were summer now, I would have left long ago.

Regardless of the reasons why one thought about work causes a whole range of negative feelings and thoughts, we can rarely give up everything and go “nowhere” in search of a better place.

The best place still needs to be found, and if you really hate your current position, then this search should not be postponed.

However, until the dream job is found, we are forced to endure what we have. And we hope that the tips below will help make a difficult situation at least a little more acceptable.

Assess the situation

This seems obvious, but when we plunge headlong into strong negative experiences and feel sorry for ourselves, we often simply do not want to calm down and evaluate the situation rationally.

Meanwhile, understanding what exactly makes us so unhappy is critically important.

Therefore, first of all, calm down and ask yourself a few unpleasant simple questions, honest answers to which will help you understand the current situation.

  • — Do you hate your position or your boss?
  • — What exactly in the content of your work or in the behavior of your management makes you want to send everything to hell?
  • — Did you ever enjoy this job at all?
  • — Did you like any of your work?

It's clear that trivial introspection is not what you hope for in the first place. Nevertheless, the answers to these important questions will become the foundation for taking real steps to overcome an unenviable situation, because they will help clear your mind of unnecessary emotions and focus.

Decide to have a serious conversation

Once you understand which part of your professional activity fuels your hatred for her, try discussing specific problems with those who you think can resolve the situation.

Even if in the end it turns out that it is impossible to resolve the situation and it will not get better for you, you will bring clarity.

  • — Do you feel like you work too much and no one appreciates it?
  • — Do you always find yourself on the edge?
  • — Do you have someone else's responsibilities assigned to you?
  • — Do you think it’s time to increase your bonus, but no one even thinks about it?

If your boss is a sane person, and you are a valuable employee, it makes sense that there are real problems, sometimes this not only clarifies the situation, but also removes contradictions.

Often " life cycle The worker's page looks something like this:

Masha gets a job and gets used to it for a while. The machine manager observes this process and sees that everything is going well.
But at one fine moment, Masha, out of the blue, writes a statement and resentfully explains (and, as a rule, behind her boss’s back) how unhappy she felt all this time.

Yes, good leader should care about and help his team, but he absolutely should not be able to read your mind. Seriously! Therefore, make an effort and discuss your troubles and grievances with your boss.

You hate this job anyway. If yours and he don’t care or he will be offended in response and your problems will only get worse, this will give you a reason not to delay finding a new place.

“Stay positive” is one of the most irritating pieces of advice when dealing with extreme dissatisfaction with your life circumstances. Moreover, the benefits are not as obvious as has been considered for decades in courses to increase self-esteem.

Meanwhile, you definitely shouldn’t paint yourself into a corner. If you hate what you do, it's easy to feel sorry for yourself and wallow in negativity, counting down the minutes until the end of the day when you can finally leave this hellhole. But this attitude to the situation, unfortunately, does not make it any easier. On the contrary, it will only get worse.

Instead of perceiving every working day as hard labor, try to perceive this entire story as a challenge and an excellent opportunity to improve your professional skills. Even if you hate your job because it's boring and stupid. The trick here is what skills we are talking about. When else will you get the chance to practice endurance and patience for 8 hours straight!

Complain to your friends

In general, take a reliable friend and talk to him about your problems (as compensation for moral damage, you can treat your friend to his favorite drink), and then, you see, you will feel better.

Do your job flawlessly

When you're unhappy, the easiest thing to do is give up and stop trying to accomplish your goals. job responsibilities to a minimum. In this regard, our last advice looks paradoxical, but only at first glance.

Overwhelm, procrastination and sabotage will not make you happier, and a job well done is always a job well done. It lifts your spirits and gives you confidence. You personally, not the job you hate.

“I’m emotionally burnt out at work”—this is the verdict people increasingly pronounce on themselves. This even becomes a good excuse for frequent sick leave or a reason for dismissal. Most people by and large do not understand what “ emotional burnout" Irritation, body pain, Bad mood at work many identify with him.

But in fact, this is a severe functional condition that has many side effects, and to get rid of them, a long recovery period is needed.

What is “burnout syndrome”?

Burnout syndrome is a regression professional development. A person experiences negative emotions, tension, internal psychological conflicts, psychosomatic reactions from prolonged stress at work. This syndrome is experienced by healthy people whose work involves intense and constant professional communication. These are professions of the “person-to-person” type: workers in the education system, medical workers, social sphere, service sector.

“Emotional burnout” includes three mandatory symptoms:

Emotional exhaustion is characterized by feeling tired from work. The person is indifferent to responsibilities. Looking at such people, one gets the impression that they have no strength left to experience “real” emotions.

Indifferent attitude towards work. A person communicates formally, even dismissively, with clients, partners, and the team. In the medical, educational and service fields, a person is only superficially interested in the needs and problems of those with whom he works.

In sales, for example, “understanding customer needs” and “after-sales service” are ignored. It's too energy-intensive. It all comes down to a formal procedure: “If you want, buy and pay. If you don’t want to, then goodbye.” Irritation tends to build up, so it's no surprise that conflicts with clients are becoming common.

Devaluation of professional achievements. A person develops a feeling of professional incompetence and professional unsuitability. All achievements and successes in work are devalued. And personal skills and abilities seem so primitive that even a schoolchild can master them.

It is a mistake to mistake irritation and lack of desire to go to work for emotional burnout.

If an employee feels a lack of energy, a decrease in mood, and an unwillingness to perform duties, but a weekend or vacation is enough for him to get in shape, then this is ordinary fatigue. With emotional burnout, a person needs a long period to recover. However, after returning to work, the state of burnout is sure to return. Changing the type of professional activity is often the only way out of this condition.

Remember that the feeling of fatigue is not accompanied by devaluation of yourself as a professional, a cynical attitude towards work and clients, unlike emotional burnout. The employee loves his profession, values ​​himself as a specialist, respects clients, but at a particular period he needs rest.

Causes of burnout syndrome

Individual personality characteristics

Perfectionists and people with high level claims in to a greater extent susceptible to emotional burnout. This category of people who strive to perform duties perfectly and on time, without making mistakes. They always set difficult goals and do not look for easy ways. If there is a discrepancy between the requirements for oneself and the real result, then self-esteem falls and disappointment in oneself as a professional sets in.

Highly anxious people and people oriented toward external evaluation are at risk.

People with high levels of anxiety worry about literally every little thing, are overly concerned about the future outcome, and make negative forecasts. Life turns into sheer excitement.

People focused on external assessment believe that they are doing useful work for society and only those around them can evaluate the results. They have no personal standards by which to determine how well or poorly their duties are performed. Unkind reviews, ratings or views from clients make them doubt their professional suitability every time.

These are specialists whose work involves daily and intensive communication with people. Many companies put customer focus in the first place, requiring employees to have an individual approach to everyone, hyper-politeness, hyper-communication, and hyper-helpfulness. All this takes a lot of energy and strength. Moreover, clients are all different, and it is not always possible to please everyone.

Operating factors

Lack of independence, moral and material encouragement, hypercontrol by management, suppression of initiative, cause negative emotional reactions among employees. After all, in this way managers hinder their professional and career development.

Factors such as the lack of a well-equipped workplace, comfortable lunch breaks and vacations, and opportunities to communicate with colleagues create discomfort, which ultimately leads to burnout.

How to cope with “emotional burnout”

Step 1. Professional self-reflection

Any solution to a problem begins with its awareness. It is important for a person to accept that work is disgusting. And then find out the reasons: what led to such a state? The content of the work itself, the company, the manager, the conditions? When the reason is clear, the person will have a clear idea of ​​whether the problem can be solved, how long it will take, and how radical measures need to be taken.

Step 2. Go on vacation/move to another department/leave the company

In my opinion, some of this is bound to happen. It is important to distance yourself from the problem either for a while or completely. Vacations, for example, are a good diagnostic tool to understand whether you are truly burnt out or just tired.

Some companies offer the opportunity to transfer employees to a similar/related department. The responsibilities remain the same, only the environment changes. Work has begun to boil in a new way, there is satisfaction and changes for the better - which means the problem was in external conditions. If even in a new place the work is exhausting, does not bring satisfaction, and the above-described triad of symptoms is observed, this means burnout.

Let’s say you went on vacation, worked in another department, and your work is still exhausting and annoying - change your field of professional activity. Perhaps you have established yourself as a specialist and need career growth.

Or, on the contrary, professional growth is needed. When a set of responsibilities is constant and predictable, you begin to perform them automatically. They need to be expanded and complicated periodically to prevent professional regression.

It is quite possible that you do not meet the psychological qualities their profession (for example, introverts work as managers active sales, and extroverts are discharge specialists primary documents), that is, they are unsuitable for professional work. And there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just time to really do your own thing.

You can offer standard advice like: delegate responsibilities, separate your personal and professional lives, get more rest. But I am convinced that all this will not save you from the problem of burnout, but will only create a temporary and illusory attempt to solve it.

The article was prepared by psychologist, recruitment and personnel development specialist Anastasia Teteruk:

"If you can't handle problematic situations at work, you don’t know how to behave with your boss or team, you don’t know how to effectively organize your work day, write to [email protected]. I will definitely share my recommendations both as a psychologist and as a personnel specialist.”

There is nothing more depressing and hopeless than the alarm clock ringing when it’s time to go to a job you don’t like.

The reason for not liking your job can be anything: a demanding boss, conflicts with employees, boredom and monotony, or destroyed ambitions. If you haven't decided to put your application on the table yet, there are several ways to ease your suffering.

Many people are stoic about their work, don’t love it, but don’t feel despair at the thought of another day. The bulk of a person's suffering comes from his own thoughts and beliefs. If you just hate your job, quit, but if you can't do that now, instead of suffering, you can try to change your thoughts and your behavior.

Start a gratitude journal

Look at your work day, most likely there are some positive sides. These can be fun get-togethers with employees at lunch break, interesting moments of work, the possibility of covens or even good coffee. Every day, write down in a journal (notepad, file) what you are grateful for in your work, and your life will begin to change.

The feeling of gratitude directly affects your feeling of happiness and teaches you to look for the positive aspects in any situation.

Take a break from work

Many people get used to working without rest or breaks, without even leaving the building for lunch. Take breaks, walk, breathe fresh air- half an hour of “freedom” will lift your mood and help you stay positive for the rest of the day.

Say what you think

Honest comments (given in a fair manner, of course) can change your career in better side. How often do you know it would be better to do one way or another, but don't say it out loud? Then, of course, you will receive moral satisfaction by mentally saying “I knew it,” but this will not affect your career in any way. Correct comments and suggestions will help you shine, and constructive criticism can be a very useful tool.

Treat your employees to tasty treats

If it is customary for you to drink tea in the office, you can bring something tasty for everyone. Firstly, it creates a relaxed atmosphere and attracts people to you, and secondly, small good deeds support good mood.

Annoying employees are a gift.

If an employee or the entire team annoys you, do not rush to snap back and show your displeasure. Colleagues may be aggressive, lazy or stupid, but still each of them can teach you something.

The lesson from them may concern professional skills or just the psychology of relationships, but in any case you can learn something from them. After all, if your rabid employee seems completely useless, thanks to him you will learn patience and empathy.

Set goals that you can achieve

Often people burden themselves with various tasks and, failing to cope, feel insignificant and worthless. This is a fundamentally wrong approach: those you can do, and mark them on your list.

After reviewing the list of completed tasks, you will have a feeling of accomplishment and will have something to present to your superiors if any questions arise.

Don't be shy to ask for help

If you feel like you're not up to the task, just ask for help. Just think in advance how many people you need as assistants, to whom you decide to shift some of your responsibilities, and what you yourself will do during this time. That is, when approaching your superiors or a specific employee, you must clearly state your request in the form of a business proposal.

Break your stereotypes

Just try to behave differently, it won’t get any worse, right? If you have always been silent at conferences, try to actively participate in discussions and ask questions; if you have always criticized someone, try praising them; if you have been working at a crazy pace, try to relax and slow down a little.

Maybe by changing your behavior, you will understand what really infuriated you so much about your work, and you can change it.

Remember that there is always a choice

Think about what still leaves you in a job you don’t like? Fear of not finding an equally profitable and prestigious place? Maybe a debt to the company when “everything rests on you”? In any case, remember that you have a choice and if you don’t find a single positive feature in your work, it’s time to change it urgently.

Find an outlet

If every day you come home from work like a squeezed lemon and lose all your good mood, it may seem that you have no energy left for anything else. The paradox is that if you find something you love, something that is interesting even after work, your energy will not only not decrease, but on the contrary, it will increase. Sports, dancing, art, even just night walks - if work does not bring joy, then something must surely bring it, otherwise this is not life, but real hell.

Next time you come to work, look at it from the outside, try to turn off negative emotions and understand what exactly makes you hate it? Maybe, in fact, the roots of your hatred are not in your work, but in yourself?